I'm so sorry. I can understand how you feel. It must be tough living with the yo-yo of M emotions.
I guess the only thing I can say is to just let him be. You have a plan, you push forward with your changes, little by little, as much as you can give. It seems that you have no control over him and he's not willing to really work on this WITH you, just in circles around you. Just let him be. Don't react to his actions....you're doing great.
I'd say that your emotions are detaching. How long did you say you separated for? Did you feel that it was too soon to move back together again? did you need more space? Do you need it now?
You made a good point for me to remember...really struck home...about being consistent with my emotions. It's fine to have off days and occasional meltdowns, but no blaming or resentment. Those days are over, but I can see how they give the impression of working hard one day and moving far away the next. It's important for me to always portray the will to make it work, the want...even if it's a sad day, hard day.
