Goodness, no, I'm not a counselor! If I were, I certainly wouldn't be doing the silly things I do each day!

W2S, good insight on the MLC assessment, I don't know much about it. If you think there are classic signs, worth reading, and I'm wondering if H's C will pick up on this, provided he goes to several sessions. Wonder why Cs are so reluctant to diagnose as such? Maybe b/c MLC is a stage or outcome, with lots of underlying issues that still need to be worked on? That makes sense.

Reading anything that can help you understand you H (or spouse) is really enlightening. I need to practice more of that.

Awwww, HAPPY 11TH ANNIVERSARY!!!! What a sweet reflection note from you, really made me happy for you. Sorry that the day didn't work as planning....hoping H still gets some time off. Don't take it to heart....it's GOOD that he feels pressured to spend time with you and pulled...it's tough. I used to feel this way too, then realized that work is important, and not as forgiving as a spouse can be. I'm sure he's thrilled that you tried, and still plan to leave, makes him feel loved. He just feels pressured that he has to react in kind to show you that you that he loves you (trust me, I play this dance every day!). It'll smooth out. Let him know, again, that you didn't mean to put him on the spot, just curious if he could leave early, if not, nobiggie, you still plan on having LOTS of fun with him over the weekend!

You've got lots of new leads with MLC and other things to reflect on. Spend the rest of the day doing that, with peace in your heart. Then, put it away for the night...have a nice time with H. I see that you packed...make sure that no stress, issues, thoughts, worries crept into your bags...too heavy for a nice weekend away.

Kudo's to you for reaching out to H and planning the weekend. I know it'll be much appreciated!

Tell me how it goes!