I just read over posts from Always and see where I read counselor wrong. Need sleep.
I copied a link over on your MLC post so won't repeat it here.
The DB and DR books are excellent tools to have in your bag. I also have the KeepLoveAlive cd set. I get something new out of everything I read.
Several books have been mentioned on this board so it may be ok to try that again here. I have not read Surviving Your Husbands MLC or something like that. May be a Conway book. I see the ladies mention it.
My W is in IC and may or may not be in MLC but was told of a book InTheMeantime by Vanzant. I read it. We are all in the meantime and while this book is not mentioned here except by me, I suggest you check it out. It doesn't acknowledge MLC as much as it address what we do in life when we are 'in the meantime'. That is what the MLC person is, whether they know or not. And that makes us in the meantime.
The six stages of mlc thread on this board is an eye opener. It is in the link I sent you. And you won't hear many C use the MLC term. Why?
You'll find a lot of threads in MLC to read and just remember MLC is not a single recipe since it involves depression, self esteem, identity crisis and possibly unresolved issues from early in life. It is often triggered by an event forcing one to review their life, like the loss of a loved one, a job, or a marriage. We don't see them processing these issues internally for months before the bomb falls, but it apparently does. I feel like it is a bump in the road to growth in life and the MLC person can't find their way over it or around. It's not all about age.
