Where's my pot of gold?

[StrongEnough]

was2sad...thank you for stopping by!

Interesting you mention MLC. When this all began a couple years ago, I suspected MLC and read up on it in the DB book, but never took it much further. My H didn't have a lot of the "textbook" signs. He didn't change his appearance or his style, the only thing he did was buy a flashy new truck on a whim without consulting me. ANd ofcourse, the A. He vehemently denied a MLC becasue he was too young (31 at the time) SO, I gave up on it. You may be onto something that I might need to read up on a little bit more. I thank you greatly for your insight on this.

It amazes me that so much of your text about your H seems to come right out of the published pages, even if the two of you don't think that is what this was. A great deal of your own thoughts and issues conincide with the cycle. Are people so predictable.

I am very interested in your elaboration on this, if you are willing. I know there are different stages to MLC. Are you, as an outsider, able to see what stage we/he is/are at? I would love to have this food for thought and if it seems like it coincides with my situation, certainly something I would like to explore further in my IC.

I honestly believe that the more factual information you gather on this the more you will be able to judge your sit not so much by emotion but by the nature of the beast.

I would do anything to look at this in a more positive way and from a perspective that might help the both of us transition through this easier and maybe with a better outcome. I commited to trying to make this work and I will exhaust every option so no matter what the outcome, I will know I tried everything.

I called H and asked him to jet out a little early. It is a touchy situation since this is a new job for him and he wants to keep the balance of keeping work happy and keeping me happy. I apologized for springing it on him last minute, but I have been planning this for weeks and I wasn't able to get a room until early this am when they had a cancellation. He said he felt like he was put on the spot to choose between me and his job. That was NOT what I intended to do, and I affirmed/validated that I understood and again apologized. This is a 180 for me. S, my PMA is still helping to be that better person that got buried from all the BS.

Always.....you are a C? I must have missed that somewhere. I, too, am interested in what you C in. Inquiring minds want to know!!

Thanks again was2sad. I anxiously await your response and recommendations for some good books or sites regarding this matter. YOu can email sites if you have any, since I am not sure if posting them on this BB is against the rules.

~SE