Sounds like you had a really productive R talk last night that didn't end in a fight. Sounds like H is ready to hear and agree to some stuff. SOOOO glad he liked the counselor, and facing the hard stuff, and doing it for HIM. As weird as it sounds, good that he's bummed, means he's feeling the reality of life and decisions....I'm really keeping my fingers crossed for you that this lasts and is productive for him.
When the time is right, can you tell H what your needs are (to not just feel sexy, but important---see you're not THAT immune to needing things!!! ). I'm sure he'll be more willing to listen, if he knows that you see his needs too, and with a little more time in IC.
Good for you with the positive thoughts. Looking back is good for some things, but at a certain point you have to move on. Can't always be looking in the rear view. BUT, it IS important to talk about the past, work it out together and THEN lay it to rest, if not, it just piles up and starts festering, then stinking, then rotting, then one of you just HAS to open the door to it again.
Get out tonight!!! Go to that thrift store....I'm sure if H sees you visibly happier when you get back, he might be more willing to give you the breaks.
Hang in there...another night, another day. Hope you have a good one with H. As much as he credits OW, I think he's gonna see how unreal it was, how you're the "real deal" through thick and thin. I think he's just feeling guilty that there ever was a "thin."
). I'm sure he'll be more willing to listen, if he knows that you see his needs too, and with a little more time in IC. 
