Hope today is going good for you. Take a breather. Thanks for posting on my thread...always helpful insight.
Hmmm. I can see bringing up his negative points is tough...but then again, this is something that he needs to address...also part of your fear and trust in him. Like you and Sage agreed...how about going to a MC, let that person bring it up (you said that it was not successful in the past, but maybe when he hears it again, it'll sink in?)...that way it's not tied to your issues with him. And, I agree that you should keep the R talks to scheduled times. My H was in your shoes...not wanting to talk. Last night he said that he hated being with me, much less my insistence on talking, ?s, emails, etc. BUT, he also says that the talks are what brought us here, and were the best thing. I was much like your H, always anxious to talk, out of guilt. So, we did scheduled weekly talks, for 30min-1 hour, calm, productive, with notes if needed. Not 1-sided. Just tried to really get to issues, or vent anger, etc. Painful, but helped. I too did too many times when I asked "how do you feel, where are you now" and I reading what you wrote, I am ashamed. I will STOP NOW. THanks.
Re: euphoric feeling. Well, I just had this hit me on the head this week, you saw on my post. I think I was waiting for that too, and then when H brought home dessert, I thought, maybe this is what LOVE is about, euphoria is what attraction is about. H and I admitted that we don't feel the "spark/giddies" about each other: is this something we lost as a byproduct of this, is this a natural thing to let go of, or are we just too nervous and fragile to feel that way now...our guards still too high, trust still too low. I think it's the latter. I know when I see him that I can feel that way, I do when I think about him. But, I have to be in a good space, clear my emotions.
If he's so stuck on the euphoria, ask him what he means, specifics. After all, you weren't with the 2 during the A. Geez. Maybe you can work on this a little. And tell him what you need. That way he sees that you are all about the goal of euphoria too, and you also get some of your needs met.
Easier said that done. Hang in there, it will get better.
Maybe you can work on this a little. And tell him what you need. That way he sees that you are all about the goal of euphoria too, and you also get some of your needs met. 
