Where's my pot of gold?

[StrongEnough]

Also, what did you LEARN about h's needs during the session?

Nothing that he hasn't already mentioned.
1) He needs 100% effort, 100% commitment from me.
2) He needs more affection from me
3) He needs me to completely open myself and my heart to him and let him in.
6) He needs me to trust him again.
7) He needs to me make him feel like OW did. (Wow, that is tough when you see it typed out)

His needs seem to change as quick as our New England weather. Kind of like a game, once I reach the level of meeting a need, he ups the ante. Once he ups the ante, I feel defeated and useless. Like I am just not good enough to make him feel secure, wanted, loved and needed. Then, another brick gets put in the wall and just makes it even harder for me to let him in.