Where's my pot of gold?

[StrongEnough]

Ok, it's late at night and I am sitting here steaming mad trying to calm down.

H has been "off" all day. Not himself. Very distant. Tonight, we were watching tv and he fell asleep on the couch. I told him to go to bed. He didn't. He stayed up and watched the end of the show. So, he comes out and tells me he will meet me in bed. He never does this. So, when I get in bed I asked him what was wrong.

He told me that yesterday he addressed certain needs of his that weren't being met. One of them was cuddling in bed. Last night, we went to bed and I was going to cuddle with him until he made a remark that made me feel bad about myself and self conscious. Naturally, I didn't cuddle with him. So he mentioned that. I told him about his comment and how it made me feel. Although I wasn't yelling, he could tell that is was something that had aggravated me. So, he just said "I'm not going to fight with you" and rolled over and turned his back to me. I then told him that I thought it was nice that he request I hold off on my sleeping pills until right at bedtime (they take an hour to work) so we can have QT talking and cuddling and he's sleeping on the couch before we even get to bed. Right when I am ready to get up, he then asks if I would like to try the discussion again more calmly. I told him not after he turned his back to me and went to sleep. And I got up.

To me, this just confirms that he emotionally left this relationship a while ago. He is starting to act like his old self again.

I am just glad I have this board. I come here to do brain dumps of the things that I can't say to him to keep the peace.

So, I don't know what to make of this sudden "I don't care" attitude, except that he just doesn't care anymore. His needs aren't getting met in a timely enough fashion and he is upset. Makes it seem like this all has to be about him.

Does anyone have any insights on this?