Where's my pot of gold?

[StrongEnough]

Ok, so I feel lousy. I didn't hit one of my goals today. Granted my son (2) is sick with the stomach virus that is going around, and I spent most of my day getting ready for H's birthday tonight. Oh well, there's always tomorrow.

Our anniversary is coming up soon. I am trying to surprise him with a night away at a nice hotel in their Presidential Suite. We would have dinner and a night out at the casino down the street. Last anniversary we were still in the newness of the reconciliation, and for our gifts to each other, we put our wedding rings back on and I gave him a shirt with a letter to my L to delay finalizing the D until he heard from me as we were trying to reconcile. This year is a little harder. There have been so many negative things happen over the past few months that it makes things difficult. The one thing that sticks out to me is that he credits OW for the man he is today. He says she was an important part of his life and taught him to be an honest man and talk about his feelings. This makes me mad as he!! because he made a conscious choice to be a deceitful lying H in our marriage......yet SHE warranted this change.....not me.

Am I nit-picking? Maybe. How should I respond to something like that? Whenever he says it, it stuns me and hurts just as much as the first time I heard it so I have never addressed it. Any advice or 2x4's?

~Strong