Thanks for the idea. I kind of had the same thought of hiding them where he would see them at work or whatever too, just haven't had the opportunity to do that.
I have to admit I tend to react badly to the hurt and "humiliation" of his alternate sources of enticement. I use quotes because let's face it, even though almost every wife who has ever gone through this has claimed that emotion, it is a private problem not public. I think we all misinterpret our emotions from time to time.
I believe that I am reacting incorrectly because I get hurt, I get emotional, and I turn off. I let the images in my head prevent me from being naked in front of him. Like I said, I am rather slim and am not far from what those girls look like. There are differences yes, I have cellulite they don't, and I have "mother" boobs. Not young perky 18 yr old ones.
Unfortunately when I let the fear get to me and turn off, I am forcing him to turn to those sources of stimulation more. Which of course hurts me again, and so the cycle continues.
So I tried a different tactic last night. He had gone to his dad's for the weekend had to move some stuff. He had a very long exhausting and physically tiring weekend. And he has to work 6 days straight this week, so the outlook for sex is slim. But rather than just letting that happen and settling for the same ol' same ol', I spiced it up.
He was laying down watchig the Blazers in bed when I took a shower. After my shower I stepped in (still naked)real quick to get a pair of undies, and he smiled and commented. So I put on my sexy sparkly bra that he bought me, a thong and some sexy perfume.
I went right back into the bedroom, pulled down the blankets and proceeded to give him a BJ. He was definitely "blown" away. He even said thank you afterwards and laughingly asked how much he owed me. It was perfect.
I am going to try my best to continue to do things like this from time to time. I read that in a SSM, as the HD, you have to not be hurt by the fact that you are mostly the one initiating. I can't just lay back and wait for him to come to me. Just because he doesn't share my energy level, doesn't mean he doesn't like it.
