Quote: So now she is the hurt puppy, and I am supposed to feel bad! Some reason this tmie I don't! Every other time I would jump, and cry with her! This time I just didn't, mainly becasue I did not want to!
Great man! She doesn't NEED you to cry with her. This is HER Sh*t not yours. Stay out of her business.
Example: My W was getting totally abused by D15 who was calling her on EVERYTHING she was doing. She was emotionally checked out of the family because of OM (but D15 doesn't know there IS OM). The day after D15 told her in family therapy that she'd feel safer living with ME because W didn't have it together, W had a big emotional breakdown and I stood there for a few seconds, then ONLY held her like I would any other HUMAN BEING who was in pain. I said nothing to comfort her. I didn't cry. I only held her for a minute or two. I am not here to 'fix' her, only to bear witness to her growth, and care for her as a human. My counselor said in these cases use the 'What Would Jesus Do?" test to determine what you should do. Jesus would have given her love, but would not have tried to fix her life.
Quote: Anyways she gave me token kiss on the forehead then a second one partly on the lips before she went to bed to write in her journal! I am sitting here giving her the space she wants trying to keep my head above water and wonder what the next move will be?
Unless SHE starts a conversation with you about OM, don't talk about it. IN fact, my opinion is even if she DOES talk about OM, just say 'I don't feel comfortable talking about that topic, s please don't ask me". Anything you say is putting YOU into the equation. Get out of it. Stay out of her business and stay in YOUR business. She has to face this - alone.
Bear witness but don't become part of the problem. Let her face it alone.
