Tim, I sympathize with your hurt and pain, I lived with it for 12 months. You've got to LET HER GO!! I know its easier said than done, I still struggle with it myself on a minute/hourly/daily/weekly...basis. You can't CONTROL her - what she wants to do, how she wants to live, where she wants to live and who she chooses to share it with. It is MORE PAINFUL to hang on than to let her go and DETACH. I know its the hardest thing you'll probably ever have to do but for your own sanity - LET HER GO. I don't mean to harp, just remind (as I constantly have to remind myself). Keep DBing!! We're here to support one another.
