HELP! "Just friends?" Slipping very fast

[Tim297181]

prepare for the worse, and expect the best!

Expecting nothing, is better. You set yourself up for disappointment by expecting the best, and likewise, you can never be pleasantly surprised.

We have a situation right now on this forum where newbies in the throes of their own rollercoaster are cheering on other newbies engaged in their rollercoasters, and I can tell you from having seen this on other sites, that you might as well then strap yourself in for what could be a long ride staying on that track.

I agree you should not be preparing for the best! One thing I am trying is to keep the hope alive, and remaing positive. This sometimes gives me unreal expectations because you dream of something better!
I agree with spending too much time on the postings! first of all I love this forum and it truly has helped me through a tough time, and I will continue to use it! For me though I was so hurt and confused by starting things all over again with my wife I looked for support and found it here! When I first really started to work on DB back in August I realized some of my family and very close friends did not understand me wanting to stay with my W! They thought I was crazy once there was someone else in her life! I soon found out who I could and could and could not talk to, and I found out that there are not many people to talk to at all! Ther is when I really turned to mysef and got stronger, and made decisions for myself! When my reconciliation went sour again, I did not want to go through this alone again! So I was so happy to find the board! the thing is I lost a week of my life because I began dependent on hearing anything on my posting! I became obsessed with hearing and talking to others on the message board! Mainly because it made me feel better to talk to people who were going through the same sitch! Don't get me wrong it is awesome and I am still stayting on the message board, and I am going to start executing things in my life to make things better!
I actually think this message board became my journal as it has for many others! The danger is a journal is private, and sometimes others opinions can influence how you are thinking good or bad! We all have to be open minded and mature about what we read here, and depend on better judgement for our own sitch! Ok enough of my rant!
NY and everyone out there Thanx again for all your help, and don't stop!