Expecting nothing, is better. You set yourself up for disappointment by expecting the best, and likewise, you can never be pleasantly surprised.
One of the principles of applying solution oriented practices is not to engage in mind reading and assumptions, which is what the guessing game is all about. I also know from personal experience how baseless and futile it is to engage in, and so I can't recommend your enthusiastic course in that regard.
We have a situation right now on this forum where newbies in the throes of their own rollercoaster are cheering on other newbies engaged in their rollercoasters, and I can tell you from having seen this on other sites, that you might as well then strap yourself in for what could be a long ride staying on that track.
I can also tell you, based on personal experience and just from surveying threads of others on this site and other sites for the past year or so, that it's when you do the work and do apply these things, that you grow, learn, and climb out of the swirling vortex, regaining not only yourself, but a better functioning self, instead of being tied into every glance and lip expression the WAS has, and encouraged to stay there, not just from others similarly caught up, but by one's own emotions and deeper than that, one's desire to stay emotionally connected to something that's gone, that rollercoaster being the vehicle that keeps one thus connected, despite the nausea it produces.
Ya think if you went to a counselor, they'd tell you otherwise, having your benefit in mind?
