Fantasy Island! Where is tatoo with my drink! I feel like a pathetic loser! Put the kids to bed. Still waiting by the phone to ring! I am actually a little worried she has not called because I do want her to be OK! Why did I put this added pressure on myself!
Tim
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Your flowers were a lovely gesture and I think your wife will probably think so too (can't say for sure thought). Signing it from you and the kids helps diffuse the intent. Don't expect a phone call and if it does come just act nice. Let your gesture speak for itself....just like a friend would.
Ok I can calm down! The call finally came! She thought the flowers were very nice and appreciated the suprise! We talked a little about her exam and a few of her annoying friends that are with her. She said ILY first I responded and that was THAT! One problem though and I know that I maybe reading into but she was talking in front of a few friends. I am sure they do not know what is going on with the OM so it would be in her best interest to be nice to me! Anyways I am over analyzing again! The call was great and made me feel good!
Tim
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Tim & TMU, You're banter in today's posts have made me laugh, cry and given me a special insight that got me through today and hopefully many more. Namely, Focus on what you have, NOT on what you don't.
I'd give anything to have my WAW still living under the same roof (or would I?). She too lived 'estranged' from me while still together and I didn't know about DBing until a month after she left to live with her 'true' love OM/BIL. She had been emotionally D'd and checked out from me for well over a year planning her great escape.
But really, isn't DBing more for us LBS's - detaching, "act as if", 180's, PMA, GAL, etc? Cherish what we have, like our kids who make our lives worth living and give us purpose. If it wasn't for us, who would they have? Who would care for them? WAW? I think not since they're so intoxicatingly engrossed in their self-centered, self-dilluted, its-all-about-me world.
You guys have grow so much in such a short time. I myself am encouraged by what you've learned and what we continually have to re-learn and remind ourselves of. Stick with it!! Keep us the excellent work!! Remember, this race we choose to run is a marathon, not a sprint. Let's keep encouraging one another one and not give up.
No way man! That was not a hijack! Thank you SO much for those thoughts. I can't speak for Tim, but I know that meant a lot to me that someone at least THINKS I have progressed. Please keep posting whenever you'd like. I don't know if I have looked in on your sitch but I will.
Don that is what this message board is for, to share our sitch and our emmotions! Please anyone at any time can hijack or interject! New views and opinions are what I am here for! TMU again Thanx! Woke up this morning if my W was doing the "Act as if" in front of her friends or did she really mean it! She is a very social person and always is concerned of what others think! She did share alot of our reconciliation with her friends at school and they all supported me! So I know she would not say anything again because they would give her crap for being stupid! Not knowing is so painful! What happened to honesty and truthfulness! I had that for a few months and it was great....now back to the "Guessing Game" and I am your new host!
Tim
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The call finally came! She thought the flowers were very nice and appreciated the surprise!
Damn, man! The bad news is, now you'll have to buy her flowers all the frickin' time or it'll look like you just did that to try and win her heart.
The good news is that I'm opening up a flower shop on your corner.
She said ILY... if my W was doing the "Act as if" in front of her friends or did she really mean it!
See what her actions are forward going. Women say "love" a lot. They "love" their friends, they "love" their shoes, they "love" their cats, they "love" that song, that movie, that perfume, their girlfriend's new dress, that funny commercial on TV...
now back to the "Guessing Game" and I am your new host!
That game will drive you crazy. I used to play along at home while watching it on TV. They give a few facts, loved how everybody places their guesses on what they assume that means or is a "sign" of, and then they spin the big wheel and everybody clings on panicking and one more insignificant clue is revealed, then they get to change their guesses based on what they assume what that new clue means, then the wheel spins again and everybody tumbles off yelling and screaming in anguish, and then the mystery answer is revealed and it wasn't what anyone was thinking in the first place. Hysterical! Did you know it was the only show ever where no one ever won? And remember the parting gifts they'd give out? Yep, a lifetime prescription to Wellbutrin.
BTW, I'm still working on my LBS T-Shirt. Thinking of moving the knife in the back to the front, right over the heart. Will keep you updated.
