I think mine would try to grab the knife on the back and stick it further in.....
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
So I am starting to get a little anxious! My wife is out of town this weekend writing a 2 day certification exam for her paramedic program. She has been studying real hard and is very stressed so I decided to send her flowers. I just got confirmation that a dozen roses (not red) will be put in her room with a card saying:
"We are thinking of you, good luck, be proud of your efforts you wll do awesome! Love Tim and the Kids"
So know I am getting stressed on how she will react and will it be genuine! Anyways I did what I thought a truly caring frien would do, to show my support for her! WHy is this so damn hard and I was having not a bad day so far!
Tim
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Who the hell knows Tim. She could really love it, or not. Anyway, I think it sounds fine, but then again, I was the one who printed lyrics and wrote my W a little note that she hated (allegedly) so what do I know. I really hope she sees it for the gesture you intend. If she doesn't then you will at least know that pretty much all expressions of "love" are off limits like they are for me. Keep us posted.
Quote: I really hope she sees it for the gesture you intend. If she doesn't then you will at least know that pretty much all expressions of "love" are off limits like they are for me. Keep us posted.
This is where "Expect the Worst, hope for the best" would come into play...for example, during Christmas, I received a gorgeous bouquet of flowers...mind you the first bouquet of flowers I had received in years...I was tickled pink but once I saw who the card was from, well not so thrilled anymore...it was from a MF...so I thanked him to be polite and kept them in the store...but thanks for the post...it reminded me that I probably need to throw them away...I had forgotten about them completely...
Get the point here? If she's not open to it, they won't matter...she'll just let them die like I did, completely forgetting them...but she will at the very least acknowledge them. Not that I was being hateful...I just wasn't receptive to them or the person who sent them. It is suggested somewhere in one of the DB/DR books that all gift giving be ceased...it puts pressure on the WAS. And we know that pressure usually causes the WAS to distance even further.
I do hope that she will be kinder to those flowers than I was...but it's just a matter of where her heart is at.
This is where "Expect the Worst, hope for the best" would come into play...
You are so right! She should have checked in already and should have recieved them! I want her to call so bad, and I want her to be so happy about them....the gesture was truly to show support for her efforts at school! The waiting is killing me right now, and I am little worried since the roads were a little icy and it was a 3 hr drive! She probably is just preparing for her exam (yah that makes me feel better..!) Prepare for the worst, expect the best! You are so right TMU I will know what she is thinking from her response! Funny thing though when I got home I saw her wedding rings were gone. I checked where she normally keeps them (a drawer we share) and they were no where I could see! I wonder again....expect the best, prepare for the worst! Damn it just call!!!
Tim
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So, I throw the question to you...because it's a Friday night...your W is gone for the weekend. What plans have you made for YOURSELF this weekend? Friday night, you could be out...GAL...doesn't that sound like a better idea than wondering/worrying about her and if she made it or if she is going to call? I think so...and yes my excuse for being home is that I was out last night and going out tomorrow night...so I am taking a night off...but come on Tim...don't you want to GAL and have something exciting to report to her if she asks you what you have been up to while she was gone...or would you rather say..."Honey, just sitting here waiting for the phone to ring...did you like the flowers I sent you?" Nah, don't be home when/if she calls...let her leave you a VM to thank you...
I would love to be out tonite! But I am spending it with my kids tonite! I was actually thinking of getting a babysitter for tomorrow, and maybe catching a hockey game! We will wait and see! I know the W is planning a nite of drinking tomorrow after her last exam, so I might as well do something also! 4yr old just asked if Mommy was coming home, and a wave of emmotion hit tinking there is chance that she may not and the kids have to experience the seperation like they did this summer! I know be positive!
Tim
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She called! It was a amazing! She said it was so thoughtful, and she loves me so much! Does not want to be away from and wants me to drive up tonite to have wild passsionate sex....
Yeah I am full of crap! Still no call!
Tim
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