Quote: I really hope she sees it for the gesture you intend. If she doesn't then you will at least know that pretty much all expressions of "love" are off limits like they are for me. Keep us posted.
This is where "Expect the Worst, hope for the best" would come into play...for example, during Christmas, I received a gorgeous bouquet of flowers...mind you the first bouquet of flowers I had received in years...I was tickled pink but once I saw who the card was from, well not so thrilled anymore...it was from a MF...so I thanked him to be polite and kept them in the store...but thanks for the post...it reminded me that I probably need to throw them away...I had forgotten about them completely...
Get the point here? If she's not open to it, they won't matter...she'll just let them die like I did, completely forgetting them...but she will at the very least acknowledge them. Not that I was being hateful...I just wasn't receptive to them or the person who sent them. It is suggested somewhere in one of the DB/DR books that all gift giving be ceased...it puts pressure on the WAS. And we know that pressure usually causes the WAS to distance even further.
I do hope that she will be kinder to those flowers than I was...but it's just a matter of where her heart is at.
