I think the very same thing. I value my family, NOT just my wife, as much as anything in my life and I will never question that. Some people don't, and that's ok, to each his own. Many men, like my BIL who is facing the same thing as I am at this point, is a man who is gone like 75% of the time, out of the city, state or country, and he doesn't have to be. So much of what he does is just because it's what he wants to do. His family, in my opinion, is maybe a priority financially to him, but as far as being with them, he could care less. He is GREAT with his kids when he is there but chooses not to be so much of the time. I see him as a shining example of someone, a MAN following his higher purpose, dedicating himself to his career(s) and doing what he feels he needs to do to satisfy his needs in life. Of course I NEVER want to be like that because I can't see myself choosing to be away that much. Again, to each his own. It may work for him (one divorce down...the next one from my SIL on the way...) but not me. I am going to be a man in my own way and if that conflicts with my wife's ideals or anyone elses' then screw it. At least I was true to myself.
