Quote: I thought about it... and I feel that serving the higher purpose is being true to myself! I look at my move as somethig that served me and my higher purpose! I gave up alot but I gained my kids back which is worth everything, I gained a second chance with my W (still working on that), and I gained a new respect for myself that I can face these challenges in life and come out OK.
So does that subscribe to the theory I am not sure! But one thing I do know is 10 or 12 years from now when the kids may start asking questions about what happened between mommy and daddy at that time in our lives I can proudly say what I did, and not be ashamed of it regardless of what my W thnks right now!
Sounds good to me.
Two questions:
1) Is your career REALLY your 'higher purpose?' or just a way to make money? What do you think your higher purpose really is? I'll give you mine, as I see it "To use my gifts of understanding and intellect to assist people to go from their current 'self' to the next level of 'self' they are destined to be." In one manifestation of that purpose I took a bunch of young, smart 'kids' and mentored them through the Dot Com era so they could grow from newbie technologists to mature, capable networking engineers and move on to better more fulfilling careers.
2) If you truly moved to fulfill you higher purpose, why did you let your Wife make a decision to stay behind with the kids? Think hard about that one. Almost every person I know has moved their entire family to a new town when it would benefit the whole family because Dad (or mom) is pursuing their career and they have a passion for what they do. I don't think moving yourself to the new job was the whole story, I think that because you did not make the decision FOR everyone that you would all stay together and move together may have come across as a lackof commitment to the family.
My example: We have moved about every 5 years or so. Usually in the same school district but the last move, 5 years ago was 40 miles. The other day my D15 was telling me that we should move again because we were getting bored in the same house.
Couple years ago my friend John had an opportunity to move about 150 miles to a new job that was going to be a real challenge to him and help him to grow his skills. As much as he felt it would be tough for her, he still explained to his 17 year old D that if he could put this off he would, but it was important to him and ultimatly to the family that they make this move in her senior year of High School. They moved and everything worked out, with a little pain for a while.
Anyway, just some thoughts. And we're just being philosophical here, so take it all with a grain of salt.
