Is it fair to think that once again, according to this vision of manhood, that any man that would compromise his values (i.e. wife sharing) is somehow not a man at all?
Consider that, as I posted, "that Deida is writing about life for a man when he's with a woman who wants to be with him... not a WAW"
You're in a specific situation for which that book does not address. Yes, there's a chapter in the book that advises "don't be with a woman that doesn't want to be with you"... but that applies to chasing after new women, it's not about whether to re-attract a WAW or not.
If you GAL, stop focusing on her, become self-loving and independent and confident, you're being a man. Changing yourself for the better because this experience has opened your eyes to your part in the relationship's downfall serves to help you now develop those aspects of yourself regarding where you can become a better, more mature, loving person, which is still about truly being a better man.
I often wonder if your average "man" on the street (and actually I have been told this by a few men who know something of my sitch) would NEVER hesitate to kick his wife out on her arse for doing half of what ours have done.
I did that, but then I wanted her back. The guy on the street who hasn't been through this is just dealing out what he thinks he would do, and not what he would really do once he finds himself in that situation, just like a WAS may have never thought he or she would cheat... but did. So what of their so-called opinions? They're based on simplistic notions, knee-jerk thinking and "either or"s again. Life is not so black and white, it's a rainbow.
