First of all thanx everyone! After getting a chance to read everyones posting it is so nice to have people really care and try to help! This is so tough! I was thinking along the lines of Frank in that is my wife losing interest in me because she does not have the "chase" anymore. There is no more prusuit from her. she has me hook line and sinker! The OM is out there and she has to pursue him, which is exciting to her! (although very damaging) I am going to be true to myself and be the best person I can be. If my W wants me to treat her as a friend right now I will. I will have to base all my decisions toward her as "Would I treat a friend like this?" not as my W! Very hard proposition but I will do it! I will always be her friend because of the kids so that always will need to be built and tended to, but to the capicity of realationship I believe she thinks I will always be there! I am not sure if this is good? I guess I will see if being Just a friend changes anything! Tough when you want so much more! Thanx again everyone!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
