I knew this was coming from Deida as I read your post.
I think it worthwhile to point out here, especially since many LBSs seem to be into "either or" type of thinking and anger, that Deida is writing about life for a man when he's with a woman who wants to be with him... not a WAW, though there's some stuff that may apply and certainly, all his points are well taken.
Also, that to take a stand wherein a man doesn't violate his beliefs et al to accommodate the woman DOES NOT infer that we act like pricks and selfishly, just in case anyone gets that idea. Deida's writing about an evolved man, in tune with his purpose in life, spiritually and physically. A compassionate man. He's basically saying don't be p*ssy-whipped, defeated at work, lost. Instead, understand what your woman is really saying, what she's all about, why women do and act the way they do, be their rock and support for that's what they need from us, want from us, and look to us for. A man who inspires her to be the woman she is, to be fully feminine, and feels free and comfortable to be that woman, for which she'll love you even more. To find your higher purpose, and stay connected to your higher purpose, and share yourself lovingly with her.
