Quote: I know when she is hurting. and right now that is becasue of the OM. I guess I can answer my own question and let her come to me when she is ready to talk about it!
And, you need to realize that she doesn't want you to FIX it for her. Most books on reltinships say LISTEN and nothing else. And only when THEY bring up a topic. Be a MAN. and I say that lovingly but I know for me, I had to learn what that MEANT. And it AIN'T being a 'nice guy' or 'mr sensitive' it's being someone that she sees as a rock, not bothered by ANYTHING she says or does. Not willing to whine, whimper or be needy. Not willing to violate his beliefs, values or life purpose to accomodate HER. Someone who stands in the face of adversity. THAT is what a woman wants. Are you that man?
Sure, I sound like I am sooooo macho but I cry, I feel needy and I want. BUT I also do what I have to do as a MAN to stand with conifdence and pride. Not to 'get even' or 'show her!' but because that's where we fell down!
I have found a lot of interesting (but sometimes weird) ideas in a book called "The superior man". You may want to look it up on amazon. TJ has it too. I got a lot of insights from it but you have to read it several times, and each time think about things you did with your W and how they reacted compared to what the author says. It's surprising.
