HELP! "Just friends?" Slipping very fast

[Tim297181]

I'm serious though, the one sure fire way to lose your spouse is to keep bringing up the om and R talks.

I'm serious though, the one sure fire way to lose your spouse is to keep bringing up the om and R talks.

I'm serious though, the one sure fire way to lose your spouse is to keep bringing up the om and R talks.

I've said this over and over on other people's threads. Michelle talks about it in her books. Other counselors/authors say the same thing and yet people still say, "Yeah but..." Yeah but, my situation is different. Yeah but, you don't know my spouse. Yeah but, this might drive them away. Yeah but..... I don't notice any of these people progressing anywhere in their stitchs until they STOP the pursuit.

I want to progress! I progressed to the point of starting a recounciliation, so I will back off! The real tough part for me is I am very open and loving person towards my wife! I know when she is hurting. and right now that is becasue of the OM.
I guess I can answer my own question and let her come to me when she is ready to talk about it!
This is so damn hard! Less than 2 weeks ago I was on a beach discussing how wonderful life is being back together, and being intimate with my wife! And today I am almost nack to square 1!