HELP! "Just friends?" Slipping very fast

[Tim297181]

I agree with you a 100% I feel like I am enabling her to be with the OM by hiding my hurt..like "He's OK with everything so of I goto the OM!"
Maybe that is what they think I am not sure, but I tried the needy pathetic path this summer and I know that it does not work and the results you get are form their own guilt!
I actually told her this morning before she left that I don't want to see her hurt anymore, I don't want to hurt anymore. She agreed with me and after a pause I added something maybe I should not have. I said the OM probably doesn't want to hurt either! She just looked at me and really said nothing! I then said life will go on and i want to share it with her! (again that last little push)
I truly don't want her to hurt anymore, and I want to do anything I can to ease the pain!