TMU you and I are way to similar! The control and manipulation issue was huge between my W and I. And I did jump feet first in to the recouncilling of our marriage! My W initially wanted to go slow and we did! But things began to progress fast between us, and the kids started to change for the better so it just went forward! I know now that is why she is still talking (and who knows what else) with the OM. She never had that tie to reflect and mourn! But I ask how can you reflect and mourn when you continually contact the OM! RELAX! Someone tell me how? I relaxed on my holidays for the first time in 8 years, but now it is "go time" again!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
