Thanx Flaneur! I know the key is to stop pressuring her! In my own mind I did that for nearly 4 days in a row! Which is big for me! But obviously it was not enough, and some of my actions were pressuring her! I really try and do alot for her so she is not as stressed at school, but I think she sees that as me trying to control and get to her! I am not sure but that is a gut call. The big pressure comes from the thought of our kids! We have 2 and 4 yr old! While we were seperated our kids completely changed. Insecure, clingy, and not the outgoing kids we have! Now that we are living together they are so well adjusted and happy I on't want to lose it again! I also keep playing in my mind if she chooses the OM who is an alcoholic, gambler, and foremer drug abuser. It puts me in an akward position to protect my kids, which would definetly kill our marriage! Stop I know! Take it one day at a time! Stop pressuring her! How easy it sounds! Thanx everyone for your input! I really have no one else to talk to about this except this message board!
Tim
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