Thanx TMU! YOu and I are realy very similar! I hope the best for you! We seemed to be giving each other the same advice but we aren't listening! I guess a communication course will help! You are right things are out of my control, and I hate that! My W hates me be controlling, and I hate it to! Before X-mas she promised me she would never talk to the OM again and it was over! It was heartfelt and very deep conversation. We also got our new wedding rings and she said she would never take them off again and that I am stuck with her for life! So now when everything in a blink of an eye changes, it is hard to ignore! I feel if I did ignore it and "Act as if" nothing was wrong I would not be true to myself! Maybe I only want to be true to my controlling self and this is why she is doing what she is doing! I know stop! Stop analyzing! Let go! I am not willing to let go of my marriage at all but I hate letting go of my wife when we have gone so far! I hope she comes back!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
