I have always believed my xh has tremendous guilt for a fatal accident he was involved in when he was 16, and feel that may be the final fear he needs to face before he comes out of mlc.
However, I do think it is possible both to feel that you did nothing wrong AND to feel guilty at the same time, at different levels, know what I mean?
And maybe it is possible to go on functioning well while carrying those strong feelings around but suppressing them. Do you think you h is able to?
Many men seem to feel ashamed of feeling emotionally weak in any way, and seeking help from a therapist is therefore unacceptable to them. I know this is frustrating but I guess all we can do is to be there to listen to them when they do want to talk, gently encourage them to (and maybe get help) but be prepared to back off if they get uncomfortable.
I know how much you want to help him, but he has to be ready for that help first. Meanwhile, he has you, and all of your love and support. Better than the bottom of a beer glass any day!
Hugs Jaybeexxxx
So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers
