Afraid, I'm sorry to see you've been ill this week. Bladder infections are nothing to laugh about. They are so painful and annoying. Drink plenty of water and get yourself some cranberry juice and drink it until you pop.
Now about your h. I've been wondering how he was doing. He's moving along at his own pace, but he appears to get stuck every so often. That's okay. Just let him be. It sounds like you've been observing, but not saying much to him about it. Am I correct? He's trying to live out a fantasy about a vacation home and thinking it will be the "safe haven" that he so craves. Little does he know that it costs money to keep these places up, right along w/the regular mortgage, etc.
Afraid, he's still in replay and is working out his issues. Just let him be and try to focus on something other than what you think might happen again. He's done very well considering everything. You've managed to work it out that he's still at home, but dreaming of something else. He may be one of the few that talks about leaving and yet never does. Allow him to have these "safe" fantasies and just listen. He will reveal more as he goes along.
Please take care of yourself. Hugs to you and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
