Afraid, Thanks for posting. Now you understand better why we say to go on w/your life and leave your h out there to twirl in the wind. Continue to worry about your children. They are very important and need you at this time. Take care of yourself as well.
Please come back to post when you have the chance.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.