Short and sweet. I found once I didn't worry about h. My life got better. I just go on with my life. I do worry about my kids still, but them being 13,11, and 9 not babies it isn't as bad. Thanks for the help. I know it is hard, but once you realize you can survive things look different. I am sure my H is still "healing" it just doesn't seem so dramatic or something. Maybe when he was out of work for 7 months and I saw it didn't mean I needed him to survive that helped. I don't know.