You have been in my thoughts so much lately. There is no doubt that in enduring this D, your life will be different. And, divorce is both the death of an old relationship, old dreams, and the beginning of a new life full of exhilarating possibilities. My D represented a loss--- the loss of an ideal, an image, the hopes and dreams that I had for the M when it was new.
Beth... IMO, it is important to face the loss, and take the time to feel and work through the grief. It is a grieving process that you have to go through. The good thing about grief is that once you accept it, let it out, and deal with it... You can truly let go and move forward in your life.
The most important step in beginning the emotional healing that leads to closure is simply deciding to do it... Knowing the time has come for you to free yourself from the past, come to terms with it, and make peace with it so you will be able to begin a rich, new life.
Beth, I wish that I could take your pain away... I REALLY do. I hope it helps to know that there are so many people here on the BB who care about you so very much... Big hugs to you, (((Beth)))... Thinking of you, -KIM
