I am going to hijack a little here, sorry, but my H asked me for a D last Saturday night. After a very long conversation he agreed to temporarily postpone mainly because of finances and kids. I am going to a C tonight to try to work on my self. My H under no circumstances wants to work on our marriage so unless some miracle happens a D is probably in my future also.

Mamabear - sorry to find that you are in the same place as me. It is tough, but we can get through this. Hopefully you postponing things can give your H time to think and you time to DB. It ain't over til it's over!

Al and Kismet - thanks so much! Love you guys! I am hanging in there. I just need to grieve now. I have put if off for a long time. Now, it is time for me to feel it, mourn my marriage, and move on.

Looking back, our M didn't have a chance as long as H was still involved with OW. You can't truly begin to reconcile until the affair is COMPLETELY over. That never happened. Even when he came back, he was still in contact with her. Well, now she can have him. He's lied so much I don't think he knows what the truth is. It will come back to him one day. I'm not sure what he is feeling now. Perhaps he is happy and relieved he is out of limbo. I do know that both our lives will be far more complicated. That I know to be a fact!

I now have to concentrate on me. Healing myself. Finding my own happiness. Finding a career I enjoy. Making the most of my life. So, I will mourn a little more and then the journey begins. It will be interesting, a little scary, and as much fun as I make it! Now, I'm ready for a margarita!

Cheers!

WCB

God grant me the serenity, to accept the things I cannot change, To change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference. - Reinhold Niebuhr