Yes, the naked ring finger takes ages to get used to. I took mine off I think in about Aug last year when I realised that wah only wore his when he saw me. Silly man forgot one time, and it was sitting in the centre console of the car. I still have the divot in my finger as the ring had never been off before then, not even during surgery as was a tight fit.
I have promised myself a claddagh ~ one of those Celtic wedding rings. I intend to wear it on the little finger next to the ring finger as a celebration, that the big love in my life at the moment is me. Thinking our anniversary would be a good time, or Valentine's Day if the lotto gods smile on me before then
I also wear my mum's rings.As I love them, and think they give me strength as worn by a strong woman, who came out the other end of a marriage with a wah a much better person.
Keep that cape flying Beth ~ even half mast is ok. Won't be long before you are WW all over the place
Beth, I am so sorry to read about how things have gone in your sitch. I was just getting caught up on your thread (Friday night - whoohoo!).
I'm sitting here wishing I won the lottery so that the angelbabies and I could hop a flight to Chicago and we could have some fun. I almost find it eerie how you and I seem to ride the hills and valleys together, and right now, you and I are in the same spot.
I have very little wisdom. Little to add to what everyone has already said. Be proud of yourself. Be proud of the work that you put into your marriage. Be proud of the example you've given your kids. Smile at the thought of the man who proves himself worthy of Beth... whereever he may be lurking right now.
I happen to think the world of you, and am sending you lots of love from The Great White North (where we have no snow currently)
Wow! You all are so sweet! It was so nice to come back home and see the support that I had here waiting for me. Really needed it today so thank you all!
Yes, I really did meet Al. What a wonderful, sweet guy! We had a great time bashing our ex-spouses and just having some good laughs! And Al, you are too kind! I really don't look like the DirecTv girl. Definitely don't have that chest! But I'm flattered that you think I resemble her. And I now really know what we have known all along - Al's XW is a complete idiot!
Had a nice trip to my Mom's house and then to my SIL. Today was my nephews party. Was fine til STBXH got there. Then, it was awful. I held myself together through lunch and presents then I left early. My in-laws are bringing the kids home for me. It was hard for me to even be in the room with him. I've never felt that way before. I'm sad that I wasn't able to keep myself together for my kids and my nephews. But, I did the best I could. Time will help me adjust to everything, I hope. I just know that right now I need to have as little contact with him as possible. So I can mourn and start to heal. This whole thing really sucks. But, it's my life and I will come through this a stronger person.
Thanks again to you all for your terrific support.
WCB
God grant me the serenity,
to accept the things I cannot change,
To change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
- Reinhold Niebuhr
Hey Beth. Thanks to you too. It does suck to have those feelings around them. I know you will mourn and heal and it will lessen just as you wisely said. Some day you'll be able to be in the same room with him and the only thought you will have is "What a dumba$$"
I'm glad you checked in. Sorry you had to leave the party early, but hey, you did great. I've been thinking of you and hoping all is well. You are right, you will be a stronger person for this!
Hope
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
Beth, the weekend just shows how strong you really are. All things considered alot of weaker people would have just cancelled but you at least went, O.K. so you left a little early - big deal at least you showed up....That cape is still flying I can see it.
Well done Beth and just keep yourself a bit busy at the moment as it does wonders to keep your mind off things....
