Beth...I took off my ring when H moved out of the house. When he noticed, I told him that if he wanted me to wear the ring, he would have to put it back on my finger. He never did. I will also tell you that he did come out of his coma, a little too late, but he did eventually wake up. I think it was when he realized that I was gone that shocked him back into reality. If you can wait, do it, but I think it was my "mental" moving on that really woke him up.
Once he starts seeing the reality of it all, when the ugliness starts showing through his rose colored glasses, he might snap out of it. Be open if you can, but first and foremost, protect yourself, your kids, your sanity.
About the ring, it took me a while to get used to it, but not too long. Now I wear one of my mother's rings on my little finger. The tan line has faded, I don't miss it too much any more, but gee...I liked that ring. People talk about getting rings reset, but I think maybe I will just hold it for one of my girls. And get myself a new ring!
Each experience in life has formed me, become part of me, made me stronger.
