Quote: After having my advances rejected over the years I've just stopped iniating.
Exactly! So by imitating his behavior of rejection, you expect that he'll keep trying, only better? This is exactly what I was talking about - you give ZERO incentive to try again or ever! And YOU know how that feels because you've lived it.
LL, this is going to sound harsh, but here goes: Get over yourself! You are clearly not happy, and you keep choosing to do what is NOT working. Someone has to break the silly cycle of "no, YOU first" . . . and since you're the one here venting your confusion and unhappiness, I'm thinking it's YOU that has to do something different.
You can stay stuck behind your expectations, CREATING exactly what you experience in the world OR you can push those useless expectations aside and try creating a better experience - with or without H., that part is up to you.
What do you hope to get out of being here? What are you searching for?
