I am the one who answers my W's calls immediately and she goes for hours without answering hers. She usually has a reason (was at the park with the kids, left it in the car, etc) but God forbid if I don't answer on the first two rings. Even now, when we are going through this, she gets an attitude when I don't answer my phone. I believe you should always answer for your spouse if possible. If not, it should not be a big deal. Of course in our sitches, NOT answering is probably the right thing to do.
