Hope- When my H and i went to the mediator, we talked about all of the big issues...selling the house, pension, alimony, etc. We also listed all of the other items (cats, furniture, dvd's cds, etc). The mediator made a list of all of these things. However, when we got the first draft of the agreement, all of those items (furniture,etc) weren't included. When my H called the mediator to point that out, he said he didn't have any list. So, then my H and I each wrote out the things that we wanted (luckily, i had kept a copy of a list that i had originally made). Between the 2 of us, we made changes and came up with the final list. We signed the agreement that the mediator prepared, and also signed copies of the lists that we had made. I don't know if my mediator just screwed up, which i think he did b/c we had talked about all of those little items for almost an hour and he wrote them down, or if its just not included as a rule.
Hope that was helpful...ask me anything else if you have other questions.
