Quote: But, he can't have his cake and eat it too...oh, this is so frustrating, b/c there are so many thing i would love to say to my H, but they are all anti-DBing.
Ha! Tell them they can't have their cake... they want cake, ice cream, jimmies, whipped cream, and big ol' fat cherry on top --- but you better keep your spoon outta their sundae. It's just how they operate right now... to borrow a Dr. Philism -- They want what they want when they want it. I don't know what the answer is on this... because everything inside us tells us, 'uh, uh. unacceptable.' but then we are supposed to stay distant and collected... it's such a back-and-forth tug-of-war.
Quote: But, i realize that the man i married, the man that loved me more than life itself, would never want to live without me and that man would figure out a way to get past it. But, something, or someone, is in the way.
I think you're right here... they're not thinking straight or logically... and most of us on this board are so logically driven... we just want to make sense of it all... and that's the $10,000 secret --- it just doesn't make sense. none of it. all of it. it's senseless. i just don't know how we wrap our brains around that.
Quote: I just hope that one day, he realizes what he has done.
Me too. For all of us, i hope that one day they finally get it. Really, really get it.
