Blast of confusion, coupled with delusion

[Tim297181]

Wow Imdi. When you get it right, you get it right.

I feel exactly the same way about not wanting the man my H is now. I feel like he shows so much concern for everyone else in his life (in my opinion a bit too much) and so little concern for me.

In the beginning of our R, my H was super attentive--lots of flowers, back massages, cooking, cleaning. It actually drove me crazy and I completely took him for granted.

In an argument we had recently I told him I felt badly for him because it was truly going to suck when the yin-yang of it all came back to him. He said maybe what was happening was it coming around. It really reminded me that I used to complain that he called too much, said ILY too much. Man, what was wrong with me that I didn't see how great he was.

SuperStressed

Wow! My W sounds exactly the same! She is the one so concerned about everyone else in her life, and truly just assumes I will always be there for her! Yet I always have been. This is my struggle personally that for me to be true to myself I want to be that caring, giving husband, that is always there for my W regardless of the circumstances! The problem is she does not respond, and all she says is don't deserve to be treated this way and I have done nothing wrong!
I wonder as said before if we stopped doing everything that we used to do to try and make our spouse happy would they see the light?
And by the way superstressed I am the husband that cooks, cleans, gives massages, takes care of our 2 and 4 yr old, says ILY way too much, and loves to give hugs.....so if you ever see my W kick her you know where!