Amen woman! Doormat, weak, subservient, codependent, needy, pathetic...we've heard them all but we know that all of them usually belong attached to the ones calling us them! We are strong, but devastated people with the resolve to try against all odds to save something that we're being told not to try and save. I have been on this rant all day but I really see it this way (right now). I feel like crap but I know I'm not crap. I feel hopeless but I know I am taking steps to feel hopeful again, someday. Your H was lucky to have anyone who would go to the lengths you have gone for him. Someday, and take this the right way, he may have that, with or without you, and realize that the kind of effort you displayed through this is the kind of effort it takes not only to save a marriage, but make one! Smile once today and keep us posted. My thoughts are with you.
