Quote: Why can't they just see the destruction that they are causing and feel bad enough to stop it...i just don't get it.
Because right now, they can't see farther than the end of their nose... or any other appendage for that matter--- i was just trying not to be too graphic.
They can't see it because they can't open themselves up to it. If they could, they wouldn't be able to do what they're doing. It would hurt them too much. Instead, they just close up... clam up... and make us into this horrible thing that they don't want to be around anymore. Remember that in order for them to justify what they're doing, we have to "deserve" this in some way, or... if their relationship with OW or OM is so great, then what we have with them can be nothing... because you can't have both. Does that make sense.
Quote: Regardless, i believe that all of us here deserve to be happy. We are obviously genuine people who are committed to those we love...that should count for something.
Amen sister. And it does count. And regardless of what happens, we'll have the comfort and the knowing that we did all we could to save our marriages... if it works out, then we have that... if it doesn't then at least we've learned (at least that's what i keep telling myself).
