Thanks hope- I am glad that you see positives in my sitch..sometimes when we are too close, we can't see things as clearly.
I often struggle with separating the man i knew from this man he has become, b/c they are not the same person. But, its hard when we have so many more years of good memories than bad. And you're right, if i met him today, i probably wouldn't want to be with my H as the man he is now...not an easy thing to swallow. My old boss used to say that to me: if someone told you they had this nice guy, attractive, with a good job, but that wouldn't be very nice to you all the time and had a tendency to be unfaithful, would you want him? Of course not. But its hard to reconcile that description with the man that i fell in love with. Why can't they just see the destruction that they are causing and feel bad enough to stop it...i just don't get it. Maybe if they are faced with the real threat of losing us, it will wake them up. After all, thats what happened with me...i took for granted that my H would always be there, loving me. And when all of that changed, i realized i better get my ass in gear to try to save my M. Maybe it would work in the reverse?
Regardless, i believe that all of us here deserve to be happy. We are obviously genuine people who are committed to those we love...that should count for something.
