Hope- I agree with you...I think this might be worse than death. At least with death, you know that the person didn't choose to leave you.
You didn't hijack...i wish my H would say those things too. I think there is a part of my H that knows that i don't deserve what he is doing. He has said the "you deserve to be happy" line more than once. Thanks for that brainstorm...but, i want to be happy with him. I think that there is a part of them that stays away out of guilt. But, is it enough to wake them up and really realize what they are doing? I don't know.
Last night, after going to B&N, i was home watching Sex and the City. In the episode, they all go to a bookstore (B&N i think) and Charlotte goes over to the Self-help section. They then pan over all the women sitting there, reading books, crying, looking a mess. I had to chuckle at it. Charlotte was embarrassed about being in that section and ordered her books from amazon instead of buying them where people could see her. When i was at B&N, i kind of hid the Surviving Infidelity book while i walked around, and then did feel a bit embarrassed when i was up at the register. Not that i should care what anyone thinks b/c i'll never see these people again. Just that i NEVER thought i'd have to buy one of those books. God, how did i get here?
