I have found that within this haven we have here, the love and support for what we are doing flows readily and in copious amounts. Outside our little corner of the painful world is another story. Most people have not gone through this and they think, just like people without kids think they have all the answers about parenting, that they have all the answers about handling this situation. "I would kick her a$$" "I would tell him to get the f___ out" "I would find him and take a baseball bat to him" "I would move out and tell her to figure it out without me!" We've all heard it. Hell, we've all felt those things which is why THIS way is so hard for many of us. It goes against the grain of everything we feel is right. Those on the outside cannot have a clue about what we are going through. Before I was in this myself, I would never in a million years have advised someone to do the things I am doing but you know what, I am, and depending on how things go, I WILL advise as many as I can. Hang in there and realize that almost nobody without experience with our kind of pain (and some that have) will understand your methods.
