Hi lmdi,

I love when people say things like that...(voice dripping with sarcasm).
They think that they're bolstering you... but really all it does is make you question yourself, your motives, your resolve.
They're trying to help --- but they're not so adept at it because either 1) they can't put themselves in your shoes or 2) they've been in your shoes and what to help you find new better shoes.

Hang in there and know that WE get you over here!

Happy Wednesday to you.

TTS