Quote: Asking if it's possible to have wife attend counseling sessions is me being an operative of satan?
NYS ~ My statement above was in response to your previous post(s) to Frank_D......
Quote: Nothing happened. It's what it's always been. You're not "hearing" her. Remember, she "avoids" rather than "asserts"... which means she puts on a mask, has not presented you with the true reality; has told you what she thinks you want to hear in order to 'keep the peace'. But she can't take it any more, she feels trapped, and that's what I think you're seeing.
I feel however, if I start pointing out things to you, and I see many, and reason with you, that you'll likely again bite the friendly hand that was trying to feed you, so to speak. So I'm very hesitant to post much, because you probably won't like what I see, so what's the point? But I wished to give you a heads up.
NYS - Bringing someone around to the place where they can view a sitch from another perspective - even if it means finding out they are wrong - takes gentleness and tact - both of which are lacking in your posts to Frank_D. "Brutal" honesty (even when incorrect) can only be given by those closest to a person. On this message board, some of us manage to develop mutual respect for one another to such a degree that we can point out things to one another we otherwise wouldn't see about ourselves. Even unflattering things. The basis of having the ability to do that for each other lies in RESPECT. None of which you have shown to Frank_D, nor do you show to him now.
Thus, my comment about you playing devil's advocate...which would actually make you not FULLY responsible for your words but would nevertheless keep you from appearing to just be an incorrigible bully.
Actually your comment about MC was a good one, though.
