I really hope the OM is truly out of your picture. If he is then this may be the time to listen, observe and not react too much to what your W is saying. She may be in her withdrawal from the R with the OM and is back to not knowing what she wants other than to cling to the notion that marriage to you is bad. Nobody except her can say for sure what she's doing right now but the trap is set for you to assume the roles in her life that alienated her. I know you are not about to do that but... Have strength, focus on the positives (no more mr. a$$hole...allegedly) and keep us posted!
