Yes, everything you say I agree with. I know that her 'I do not want to be married' is still her fear of 'what was'. She also desparately wants to prove to herself that she doesn't need me, which is why I offered to HELP her to learn what she needs to make her business work but not to BANKROLL it or DO THE WORK for her. I think that 'respect' from me of her ability to do things on her own has been sorely lacking. And, I think her success in this business will help her fill that 'void'. I definatly will NOT try to fill it, we already saw with OM that it becomes dependence which I do NOT want from her again.
I will continue to give unconditional love, I did make a commitment to do everything in my power to help her learn to be ok on her own whether she is with me or not.
One thing I have always understood is what someone said to me a long time ago about 'power' and 'strength'.
"Sometimes he most impressive display of power, is restraint". Something to think about.
